I spent $20k on my homegirl's birthday

This one was $20k. August 8th and 9th. Venue, bottles, dinner, everything. 23 people at an $8k dinner alone.

June 27th through 29th I was in DC spending $15k on another homegirl's birthday weekend.

July 4th I dropped $7k on a boat.

June. July. August. Back to back to back.

I'm telling you this not to flex. I'm telling you because it took me a long time to understand why I do this.

I used to think rich people were hoarders.

Stack as much as you can. Protect it. Keep it close. That's the game right?

Nah. I had it backwards.

The longer I'm in this the more I realize the point of having is giving. The whole point of building something is what it lets you do for the people around you.

The money itself is boring. What it unlocks is not.

That $8k dinner was 23 people.

I looked at that bill when it came and part of me was like nigga this is insane. That's a whole used car. That's months of rent. That's a stupid amount of money for one night.

But here's what that dinner gave me - it deleted a ceiling I didn't even know I had.

After you spend $8k on a meal for your people and the world doesn't end, money starts feeling different. You stop flinching. You stop operating from scarcity. You stop doing mental math every time you want to do something for someone. You realize the bag replenishes when you move right.

That dinner wasn't an expense. It was a software update.

And once you update, you can't go back. End of June I'm in DC dropping $15k. Week later I'm on a boat for another $7k. Month after that another $20k weekend.

Not because I'm reckless. Because I finally learned what money is actually for.

When I was younger I thought enjoying nice shit before you "made it" was irresponsible.

Like you had to earn the right to be in certain rooms. First class is for people who've arrived. Five star hotels are for people who can stay there every week. Expensive dinners are for old money and executives.

I believed the lie that you grind first, stay humble, keep your head down, then one day you earn the right to experience the good life.

That's backwards.

The first time I sat in a first class seat I wasn't rich. Wasn't even close. But something clicked.

I looked around at the space, the service, the way everything just worked, and I thought - this is how the other side moves. This is what's out there. This is what's available if you figure it out.

That flight rewired me more than any motivational video ever could.

It wasn't about the seat. It was about the exposure. Seeing what's possible. Getting a taste of the life you're building toward so it becomes real instead of some abstract fantasy.

That's not indulgence. That's indoctrination.

Here's what I mean by indoctrination:

Most people are building toward a life they've never seen. They're grinding for a future that only exists in their imagination. And because they've never touched it, never been in those rooms, never felt what it's like - it stays abstract. Easy to give up on. Easy to forget why you're sacrificing.

But when you've been in the lounge. When you've stayed at the hotel. When you've been at a dinner table with 23 people celebrating someone you fuck with and the bill is more than most people's monthly salary. When you've experienced it even once - now you know it's real.

Now you're not chasing a fantasy. You're chasing something you've already tasted.

That changes how you move.

The best part of that $20k weekend wasn't the venue or the bottles or any of that.

It was the energy in the room and what happened after.

My day 1s - niggas I came up with - they left different. I started getting texts like "nigga i understand it now, and i have to get to $30k/month." People telling me that weekend showed them what life could actually look like if they got their shit together.

Not because I gave them a speech. Not because I told them to work harder.

Because they were in the room. They felt it. They saw what's possible when someone in your circle makes it and brings everybody with them.

Partying with your day 1s in your 20s at places that feel out of reach is a crystal ball glimpse of what's there for the taking. You're sitting there with the same people you grew up with, in a room that most people will never see, and everybody's looking around like - we could all have this. If we lock in.

That moment does something to a friend group.

That $20k weekend wasn't a party. It was a glimpse of the future. And everybody who came left hungrier than when they walked in.

That's worth more than $20k.

The point of having is giving.

I don't want to be rich alone. That sounds miserable. What's a first class seat if everyone you love is in economy? What's the five star hotel if you're checking in solo while your day 1s are back home struggling?

The vision was never the money. The vision was the group chat planning a trip everybody can afford. The vision was picking up the tab without thinking about it. The vision was your mom not worrying about bills because you handled it. The vision was your homegirl having a birthday she'll remember forever because you made sure of it.

That's what having is for.

Not accumulation. Circulation. Not hoarding. Holding the door open.

$15k in DC. $7k on the water a week later. $20k in August. Three months. Over $40k on my people.
Some people would call that reckless. I call it the whole point.

You don't have to wait until you "make it" to start living this way.

Take your people somewhere nice before you can comfortably afford it. Not to be stupid. But to plant the seed. To give everyone a glimpse of what you're building toward together.

Let them taste it early. Let the exposure do its work. Let it raise everyone's standards so you're all pulling in the same direction.

That trip you "can't afford" might be the most important investment you ever make. Because it turns an abstract dream into a shared mission.


I'm not building to retire on a beach alone counting my money.

I'm building so the people I grew up with never have to stress about the shit that used to stress all of us.

I'm building so my mom can relax.

I'm building so my day 1s can bet on themselves without worrying about how they'll eat if it doesn't work out.

I'm building so when we're all 40 we can look around the room and know we actually did it. Together.

That's why I keep spending racks on the people I love.

The having is just the vehicle. The giving is the destination.